Things You Should Never Say To A Woman Who’s Struggling to Get Pregnant
- When a woman is struggling with infertility, the people around her often feel helpless. They want to say something—anything—to make her feel better. However, in their efforts to be supportive, they sometimes end up saying things that are hurtful or offensive. If you’re not sure what to say, it’s always best to err on the side of caution and avoid saying anything that could be construed as insensitive. With that in mind, here are seven comments to avoid when a woman is struggling to get pregnant.
Just Relax and It Will Happen.
- So that’s all I had to do to just relax and I will be pregnant, what have I been doing all this time? This is probably the most common—and least helpful—thing people say to women struggling to get pregnant. The suggestion that the problem is all in their head just adds insult to injury.
When Are You Having Another Baby? Are You Worried About Your Figure?
- I experienced this on several occasions. Imagine for a year and a half you have had a negative pregnancy test each month. Now imagine someone walking up to you not knowing what you have been going through and then letting out this bomb of a question. When Are You Having Another Baby? Are you worried about your figure? Believe me, it comes from a place of care and love. They meant no harm. If you are reading this and you have gone through infertility you will understand actually how this affected me. I just went home and cried. It is very important to always err on the side of caution because you do not know what others are going through.
Maybe you’re not meant to be a mother.”
- This woman is already feeling like their own body betrayed them. We do not want a constant reminder of that fact. This one is just cruel. Sharing your own personal experience about how you didn’t want kids until you finally had them doesn’t make this any better. No woman wants to feel like she’s not doing something she’s supposed to do.
You Can Always Adopt.
- Hum Apparently, I did not know about adoption. While this may be true, it completely discounts the fact that many women desperately want to have a biological child of their own. Many women want to experience the feeling of carrying their own child, And even if adoption is an option they’re considering, it’s not something they want to be reminded of in the midst of their struggle.
At least you have fertility treatments as an option.
Yes, fertility treatments are an option—but they’re also expensive, emotionally draining, and often unsuccessful. Reminding someone who’s going through IVF that they’re lucky because they have access to expensive medical procedures just rubs salt in the wound.
It happened to me as soon as I stopped trying.
Yes while the above method has worked for you. That does not mean it would work out for other women. Every woman’s body is different, We do not share the same diagnosis. The simplicity of the above-suggested treatment is not only insulting it is laughable to assume that a person going through infertility for more than a year has not tried it or sought medical assistance.
You should count your Blessings At least you don’t have cancer/a disease/etc.
Yes while the above statement may be true, that does not mean that a woman in that position Should not aspire and work for more in her life. This is unhelpful because it places the woman in a space where she feels guilty. All she needed was someone to listen to her
The Last Thing You Need to Know About Things you should never say to a woman who’s struggling to get pregnant
- Trying to get pregnant can be an incredibly difficult and emotional time for a woman—and the people around her. If you’re not sure what to say, it’s always best to err on the side of caution and avoid saying anything that could come across as hurtful or insensitive. Being there for her and offering a listening ear can make all the difference in the world. If you wish to learn how to respond to the above questions go here. Until next time.
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